Family and Career

I found a new release at the library the other day, called The Comeback: Seven Stories of Women who went from Career to Family and Back Again, by Emma Gilbey Keller. After reading one line of the inside cover, I immediately wanted to read more — “An inspiring book that argues that women can have it all — just not all at once.”

This echoes what I have long felt — that life happens in seasons.

For seven years I have been a mother of preschoolers. Their needs have been constant and basic — food, clothes, diapers, potty-training, bathing, and so on. Early motherhood is physically and emotionally demanding, and it doesn’t have a definite end moment, it kind of tapers off like the waves on a beach. But it does end.

And now I’m (suddenly!) the mother of elementary-aged children. If I find myself doting over them too much, putting on their clothes for them or reminding them to put their library book in the backpack, then they quickly call me on it. They need to do those things for themselves and this is a good and healthy part of growing up.

Realizing this has been difficult for me. I’ve been restless. I thought about cleaning more, taking up helicopter parenting, or shopping. But none of those sounded appealing.

So I picked up some contract writing work that has been keeping me busy, but yesterday I sent in the invoice and today I’m reflecting on family and career. As I write this, the house is abnormally quiet and through the open window I hear a truck in the distance and birds chirping outside. It’s peaceful, and didn’t I yearn for this during those rowdy summer days?

Like the cool breeze coming through my window — so different from the summer heat — I know my season is changing. May God direct my steps.

19 thoughts on “Family and Career

  1. I’m at the same point you are… finding the need to rely on God more than I expected to during this transition. If you’re interested, my posts on the topic are called ‘Pink, Tears, Learning and Change.’ I look forward to checking out your blog more as it seems to be in a similar vein to mine. Peace.

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    1. Hi Lori — I’m looking forward to Fridays, too. I think it will be a great study for both of us, even at these different stages of our lives. (for those who don’t know, we’re in a ladies Bible Study by Beth Moore, “Esther: It’s tough being a woman”)

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  2. ahhh, yes, the first several weeks of the yougest going to school for the first time… scary, uneasy, quiet, wonderful…yes!

    This year my oldest is old enough to join competitive sports. The chaos returns, believe me. I had to tell her she wasn’t allowed to date until she’s 16… she thought it was her choice! I said if it were up to her father, she’d be 30!!

    Enjoy SOME of the time for yourself, it’s Ok…. really.

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    1. just thought I’d add… I’ve been on a promotional track with my company for some time, and just when the stakes are highest I found it within myself to let it go… told them no… I can’t sell out what little time I have with my kids now that they are in school for ‘more’ financial security….

      what do we really need when we retire anyway, right????

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  3. Great post. It seems just about the time you get used to one way of life with the kids, they start another. Sweet days you’re in–relish and enjoy. My youngest has started her senior year in HS, so we’re in for a major transition next year.
    I too just started B. Moore’s Esther study…do you think you’ll ever blog about it? I wonder if I will…

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    1. hmm…seems my name doesn’t have a link with it…how to fix, I’m not sure. my blog is jodiq.wordpress.com. thanks for stopping in yesterday–really appreciate your words of wisdom

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  4. Jodiq – I just figured this out myself. Go to your profile page and type your blog address in where it says website. It doesn’t go back and link up past comments, but it’ll work for future comments.

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